Owning Your Solo Status in Front of Your Ex

Weddings are beautiful occasions. The bridge is lovely, the groom worships the ground she walks on and everyone is overjoyed and happy. That is, except for the bride’s best friend who is single and in the wedding party next to her ex, who just happens to be the best man. Even better than that, he just got married to a lovely girl and they are expecting twins and starting a blissful life in suburbia. If you’ve ever needed a boost of confidence in who you are, now’s the time, and we’re going to tell you how to get it.

Look Great

Okay, it’s a no-brainer. Any time you see your ex, whether it’s at the grocery store or at your BFF’s wedding, you want to look stunning and supermodel-like. But when we say look great, we mean invest-your-hard-earned-paycheck-in-an-expensive-makeover great.

Now is not the time to be counting pennies and dying your hair with a box from the grocery store. Visit the salon, pay to have your makeup done and come prepared with the essentials. Pack a comb and dry shampoo in your wedding bag to spruce up your hairdo throughout the day. If you look like a million bucks, you’ll feel like a million bucks, and you won’t even care about his cute little wife’s belly because you’ll have the eye of every single guy in the house.

Start the Conversation

It’s going to happen. You’re going to have to talk to them, and pretend like you are perfectly happy to be single while they are starting their perfect life together. Whether you feel it or not, now’s the time to put on your Stepford mask and fake it.

Approach him before he has a chance to approach you. This puts you in control of your situation and allows you to leave him hanging once you’re done talking. Be genuine and pleasant in your greeting, and make sure you’re friendly to her, too. Even if you can’t stand her sugary sweet smile and the look in her eyes that shows she knows she’s got everything you want in life. Now is a time when being the bigger person will pay off.

Enjoy Yourself

As the single girl, you’re going to get asked to take pictures of happy couples. Offer your services before you are asked, and take ownership of your single status like you are proud to call yourself a single lady. You’re also going to be asked to dance by at least ten smelly men and possibly one good-looking one. Accept all their invitations and act like you’re having the time of your life. Everyone loves the life of the party, and you’ll make him regret he ever let you go for the Desperate Housewife next to him.

Indulge the Next Day

You can think positive all you want, but you’re also allowed to feel depressed as your best friend sails off into the sunset with Prince Charming and you’re left to clean up champagne glasses and confetti. After enduring the excruciating torment of a full day with your ex and his wife, take yourself out for something indulgent the next day. See a movie, book a day at the spa or go shopping for a new outfit. Remember that your time will come and there’s no sense dwelling on the past. Especially when it’s got two babies on the way.